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SunAscendant | I want to get back with my ex. He broke up with me last Saturday when Saturn exactly conjuncted his natal Venus (we also have Pluto conjunct the DC in our progressed composite). I want to know how, based on his chart, how I should go about getting back with him. What would he be more likely to respond positively to? His dominant modality is fixed, so he's stubborn and doesn't change his mind easily, plus his Capricorn dominance makes him quite obstinate as well. |
Randall | Bump! |
FruityLlama | I would hazard a guess at praise and compliments, maybe even begging for forgiveness based on his Leo moon alone but I guess you need to ask yourself whether you really want to do that. If you're asking about how to communicate with you that is. Don't lose all dignity but like you said he is quite fixed. Plus the moon-saturn opposition isn't too pretty. He will be feeling sorry for himself regards relationships.The best thing to do in the long run is to give him space to miss you. This guy is quite relationship orientated- juno in first, moon in 7th. The stellium in 12th could make him irrational at times. Let him wallow in self pity for a bit and hopefully once the transits pass too you both should see things clearer. |
SunAscendant | quote: Originally posted by FruityLlama: I would hazard a guess at praise and compliments, maybe even begging for forgiveness based on his Leo moon alone but I guess you need to ask yourself whether you really want to do that. If you're asking about how to communicate with you that is. Don't lose all dignity but like you said he is quite fixed. Plus the moon-saturn opposition isn't too pretty. He will be feeling sorry for himself regards relationships.The best thing to do in the long run is to give him space to miss you. This guy is quite relationship orientated- juno in first, moon in 7th. The stellium in 12th could make him irrational at times. Let him wallow in self pity for a bit and hopefully once the transits pass too you both should see things clearer.
I praised him and I took blame for everything. I basically begged. I wrote him a heartfelt letter pouring everything out and asking him to call and he still hasn't. I hope once things get clearer in the skies he might come around. There is a guy who is into me, but I'm still hoping to rekindle with my ex. |
Orange | TR Venus is turning retrograde in about a month. He will come back for healing the wounds. Past relationships are given a second shots. |
SunAscendant | quote: Originally posted by FruityLlama: I would hazard a guess at praise and compliments, maybe even begging for forgiveness based on his Leo moon alone but I guess you need to ask yourself whether you really want to do that. If you're asking about how to communicate with you that is. Don't lose all dignity but like you said he is quite fixed. Plus the moon-saturn opposition isn't too pretty. He will be feeling sorry for himself regards relationships.The best thing to do in the long run is to give him space to miss you. This guy is quite relationship orientated- juno in first, moon in 7th. The stellium in 12th could make him irrational at times. Let him wallow in self pity for a bit and hopefully once the transits pass too you both should see things clearer.
My cardinal energy likes to lead but his Leo moon and fixed nature doesn't like that.
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SunAscendant | quote: Originally posted by Orange: TR Venus is turning retrograde in about a month. He will come back for healing the wounds. Past relationships are given a second shots.
I know Venus Rx can mean reconnecting with an ex, but do you think that is the case with him? |
SunAscendant | quote: Originally posted by Orange: TR Venus is turning retrograde in about a month. He will come back for healing the wounds. Past relationships are given a second shots.
Oh jk, it's happening in his 7th house so yes I think you're right for sure. |
Orange | yeeeess...Venus retrograde is so wonderful for broken up relationships. I wish you success! Don't push it too much now, thou, wait for the right time. Actually, do as your heart tells you! |
theunknown | Hi there, he was born on the full moon and people born on the full moon is always a little bit torn. He's not as leo as other leo moon. The venue in Sag tends to have phase and one reason he doesn't call back is that he is kinda over his phase with you.
Another reason is that, and I might be wrong because I only get a feeling from your post only, without much context, that your letter blaming yourself for everything might not have hit home the reason that was the deal breaker for him, so it appeared disengenuous Now, he has Pluto on MC so he might very well be waiting for further information to examine what you have to say
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SunAscendant | quote: Originally posted by theunknown: Hi there, he was born on the full moon and people born on the full moon is always a little bit torn. He's not as leo as other leo moon. The venue in Sag tends to have phase and one reason he doesn't call back is that he is kinda over his phase with you.
Another reason is that, and I might be wrong because I only get a feeling from your post only, without much context, that your letter blaming yourself for everything might not have hit home the reason that was the deal breaker for him, so it appeared disengenuous Now, he has Pluto on MC so he might very well be waiting for further information to examine what you have to say
I did address the reasons why he thought the break up was a good idea and tried to give examples as to how I can go about changing those things. What other information does he need? I don't know what else to say . I thought that Full Moon people are always trying to keep their lives balanced and are more likely to try and find a middle ground and work things out to keep the peace. Perhaps his Capricorn stellium doesn't allow that, but then again I also have a Capricorn stellium and I'm not as stubborn (despite being a Taurus sun!) or rigid. We also oddly enough met the dat before a full moon!!! |
SunAscendant | quote: Originally posted by Orange: TR Venus is turning retrograde in about a month. He will come back for healing the wounds. Past relationships are given a second shots.
Actually, on the 11th there will be a lunar eclipse in his 7th house. Do you think the breakup was fueld by this eclipse? |
theunknown | I was born near this guys date. I'm a second décan Aquarius but I've dated aquarians before too. So take it as whatever you want. Taureans ate very literal and us aquarians aren't really. Especially with a Capricorn mars. Aquarius drops hints and tends to avoid getting to the bottom of the problem because we try our best to detach from our emotions and admitting that certain things hurt us more than we like is hard. Capricorn mars tend to find final resolutions so if we do break up with ppl, it's a cumulative result of little things that a add up. But we might not address things as they are the ways they are because Capricorn is calculative so we try to minimize the risk of having a crazy ex... i.e. Not provoking too strong emotions from the other person might be the way to go. So what he's telling you more likely than not is not the right reason. And for you to have to ask what he wants you to address means you really don't know what he needs. As an Aquarius, I know us aquarians are always seeking out ppl who see us fit what we are and when someone can't, which is usually how most Aquarius grew up any way, we detach. There's a switch that got permanently turned. And we figure out "connection" with a particular individual durent not exist in real terms. Aquarians see things in connections, not relationships. Another possible answer is he told you exactly why and he doesn't believe that you will change. He wasn't intending to make you feel guilt, he just gave you a reason that he had thought through. Your apology makes him feel really awkward because he really just wanted to end things. There's a contradictory nature in every Aquarius but we don't tend to guilt trip people much. He might think you are just beating the dead horse. This also comes from the fact that we observe and theorize. So if he really meant to say something, it comes from this long process of observing and he believes you will follow the same patterns of behaviors. |
SunAscendant | quote: Originally posted by theunknown: I was born near this guys date. I'm a second décan Aquarius but I've dated aquarians before too. So take it as whatever you want. Taureans ate very literal and us aquarians aren't really. Especially with a Capricorn mars. Aquarius drops hints and tends to avoid getting to the bottom of the problem because we try our best to detach from our emotions and admitting that certain things hurt us more than we like is hard. Capricorn mars tend to find final resolutions so if we do break up with ppl, it's a cumulative result of little things that a add up. But we might not address things as they are the ways they are because Capricorn is calculative so we try to minimize the risk of having a crazy ex... i.e. Not provoking too strong emotions from the other person might be the way to go. So what he's telling you more likely than not is not the right reason. And for you to have to ask what he wants you to address means you really don't know what he needs. As an Aquarius, I know us aquarians are always seeking out ppl who see us fit what we are and when someone can't, which is usually how most Aquarius grew up any way, we detach. There's a switch that got permanently turned. And we figure out "connection" with a particular individual durent not exist in real terms. Aquarians see things in connections, not relationships. Another possible answer is he told you exactly why and he doesn't believe that you will change. He wasn't intending to make you feel guilt, he just gave you a reason that he had thought through. Your apology makes him feel really awkward because he really just wanted to end things. There's a contradictory nature in every Aquarius but we don't tend to guilt trip people much. He might think you are just beating the dead horse. This also comes from the fact that we observe and theorize. So if he really meant to say something, it comes from this long process of observing and he believes you will follow the same patterns of behaviors.
Yeah, Aquarians are apathetic and have literally no emotion. I rarely go for them. Also, he is Capricorn dominant as am I, so we are quite similar.
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theunknown | ^^^oh heyyy ..,, we have so much emotion... don't say that |
SunAscendant | I just realized in our composite we have Libra on the 7th and tomorrow Jupiter is going retrograde in Libra. With Venus and Mercury going retrograde soon and Jupiter transiting our 7th going retrograde I am hoping a reunion will occur. |
theunknown | ^^^also there's a possibility of this guy still needing to process things. Unfortunately Aquarians are always over thinking so we need to mull over everything for like ages before we finally decide to get back to someone. And since his Venus is in Sag, he might get back to you. Just give him some time |